Do you aspire for a virgin? So, does everyone. However, when it comes to Muslim community this aspiration takes a new high. But what if this virginity is fake or artificial? As it happens in the case of Aisha Salim who is to marry a person from Pakistan, therefore, went for a surgery, which would prove her virgin on her first wedding night. In fact, it won’t be her first experience. Aisha is not the only one opting for such medical procedures to prove her virginity but many other Muslim girls are also following the same path.
This is just a tip of the iceberg, while the core issue is quite grave. In other words, it merely percolates the fast growing conflict swirling up between modern lifestyle and the so-called chauvinism, which is, indeed, a strong pillar of Islam. Not only this but it also puts forth a new debate; are rigid Muslim rules still applicable for the fast changing society or isn’t this trite rigid structure proving a stint for the development of Muslim community?
The case of Aisha clearly depicts the manner in which aspiration and willingness to come up with the modern lifestyle is being crushed under the juggernaut of Islamic rules. And if modern girls like Aisha are under so much pressure to adopt fake methods just to prove their virginity then what would be the situation of other women in the Muslim community, could be assessed easily. This is issue not just of virginity but of other aspects too where we find man always having the upper hand. He is free to do what he likes, can mould laws as per his comfort. Alas! Women are supposed to follow their edicts with downcast eyes.
We are living in 21st century still after first wedding night, a woman is supposed to show her bed-sheet blotted by her blood to prove her virginity. This is something, which blows out smell of barbaric and uncivilized society. After all, we need to introspect that how far strict Islamic rules are relevant in the modern perspective; otherwise, religion that is supposed to be there as a guiding star, would herald doom for the society.
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Please be aware of your words; the so-called chauvinism is not a strong pillar of Islam. Scan through the five pillars of Islam before setting your judgement.
... wow.
I would just like to inform you of a few things. Weddings in Islam are impossibly beautiful. They are an important part of our religion, and speaking as a muslim girl, (can’t say woman yet, cos I’m 17) I think you should learn more about the religion, not cultures surrounding it, but the religion in it’s purity before you make a judgement. After all isn’t an informed judgement more sound than an uninformed one.
I would love to get married one day, but I know that if my husband truly believes in Allah (God), and the guidance he has sent, then he will treat me perfectly within my rights, as faith means you know also that other people have rights under God, and it is your duty as a creation of Al-Khaliq (God the creator), to honour the rights of all individuals for the sake of God. =] Just thought I should give you a heads up. For my information i reccomend the book ”From My Sisters’ Lips” by Naima Roberts.
well said,
but you know there is no use to give advice to them.his motive is to insult ISLAM.so our teaching are useless for them.
This is just an answer to what is an unbelievable question found on Islam-QA.com. What people now do with regard to this matter is very far from Islam so the author of this article should have done some homework.
Is it permissible for the husband’s family to show the virginal blood?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
This is a reprehensible tradition and an abhorrent action. It is not permissible for the husband to go along with his family in this matter or to agree to it in word or deed, for a number of reasons, including the following:
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This is one of the marital secrets that are to be kept. Whatever goes on between the spouses in their private relationship, it is not permissible for them to spread it among people or to tell anyone about it?
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This blood is not the sign that distinguishes between a decent woman and others, as is well known, therefore the whole exercise is pointless.
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If we assume that the husband discovers that his wife is not a virgin, then he is enjoined to conceal that fact and not disclose it to people. What his family are asking him to do is helping in haraam disclosure, not in concealment which is obligatory.
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Another of the evil effects of this reprehensible custom is causing anxiety and stress to both spouses, because the husband is rushed into breaking the hymen and the wife may not be ready on the first night, so he may cause her to bleed heavily and cause resentment in the marital relationship.
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This reprehensible tradition implicitly accuses the woman of immoral action, as they demand her to produce proof of her innocence.
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The least that may be said of this reprehensible tradition is that it is contrary to modesty, because the intimacy that occurs between the spouses should be concealed and it is not permissible to disclose it or announce it.
This reprehensible tradition should be prevented and fought against.
Shaykh ‘Ali Mahfooz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
One of the bad traditions is parading around the village with the bride’s chemise stained with virginal blood, and indeed the blood of the crime against this delicate organ on the part of that beast who does not remember that Allaah is watching him with regard to how he treats this poor woman at the most difficult of times. When they parade around with the chemise and when the hymen is broken they say words that would shame anyone who has any shred of humanity. This reprehensible innovation has died out among the rich and the middle classes, but it still remains and is treated as sacred among the poor and lower classes. It is one of the remnants of Jaahiliyyah. End quote.
Al-Ibdaa’ fi Madaar al-Ibtidaa’ (p. 265), Dar al-I’tisaam.
And Allaah knows best.
salam wasim bhai.
ama kisko teach kar rahe ho. whose intention to write article is to insult islam,
and bytheway the writer don’t have mind.i don’t about 6 th pillar of islam,he talking about.
well,they said lot to us,now let me ask from them !
We want virgins hell yeahhh
I might sound like a total outsider but there’s just one thing i want to say. Being a virgin or not is completely a girls choice, and we as males should respect her decisions. If you cant respect a females decisions...you cant respect the female. No offense intended to anyone.
Im sorry man but the principe of respect is to respect yourself. So if a female cant respect herself by not having sex before she is married that it is not earned by the males around her. You are using modern society to justify your explanation which isnt incorperated into the religon. What your saying is no matter what a females desicion is we must respect it. This is isnt true, if this were a conversation about female prostitution you would have a complete differant opinion, even though the women herself decided to do it.
Virganity = Modesty for sure
Is this new Islam-hating web-site where Hindus try to teach Muslims their religion?
umm..no Hindu has even commented on this post before you..so get ur information right before you start accusing others..no one in the world is interested as far as i know in teaching other people how to follow their religion..so stop trying to make a issue out false information..its something that you just made up thats what it sounds like..because you had nothing better to say.
I think the point from the original submission was to realise how damaging cultural edicts and dogma are abuses on Islam. Morality flows like a river through the generations of mankind. In the time off our Prophet-peace be upon him, it was standard practice to bury baby girls alive, as they were seen as an unwanted burden. Today you will find it hard to find anyone who would agree that this is moral in any way, and yet like the subject of virginal proof mentioned above, it was not only acceptable, but expected. Islam is our guiding light so that we can peer into the darkest corners of cultural abuses. It is social and psychological abuse to subject a person to a parade of virginal proof. Our prophet peace be upon him took widows and divorcees as his wives, from Christian and Jewish communities. They were not virgins and he did not attempt to disgrace his wives in the way described above. It is every Muslims duty to make a clear distinction between the moral and right way of Islam, and cultural abuses. They not only abuse our brothers and sisters, they ultimately abuse Islam.